Right… if you are my mum or anyone that might find it weird to see me talking about sex I suggest you stop reading this post now.
Seriously! I mean it… Okay… don’t tell me I didn’t warn you first!
Sometimes I wonder if women are actually into sex at all…
Right… I suppose I better start from how I got to this conclusion so you have a chance to try and follow my train of thought.
Welcome to Sex Talk Thursdays
I was having a chat with Livy the other day and the subject kinda popped out of nowhere… no… I lie… it did come out of somewhere… I was having a moan about going on without any for a few days and she told me not to complain to her because she hasn’t had any in 7 months and wasn’t moaning about it…
Seriously??? 7 Months?????On your own accord???? HOW????? And more to the point WHY????
Her response to that was “simple”
lol, meh, sex doesn’t do it for me! I’m all about the kink and I’m getting that! it doesn’t actually occur to me to have sex/masturbate at all
And it’s not just her…
I’ve been married for 7 years and my ex could go on without any for huge periods of time (even with my constant “moaning”)…
My girlfriend told me that before she met me she went on for 18 months of her single life without even noticing she hasn’t had any… It gets worse but if I say too much she’ll just kick me on the balls… 
Do all women feel the same way??? Are men and women really so different???
People… Sex is not just great and awesome and all that (with the right person and right circumstances it has to be said) but it is also good for your health for reasons such as:
- A UK study which looked at the relationship between having frequent orgasms (two or more per week) and mortality in men. At a ten year follow up the researcher found that men who had frequent orgasms had a significantly lower risk of death than men who did not have frequent orgasms.
- Several studies have hypothesized that hormones released during arousal and orgasm, specifically oxytocin and DHEA, may also have protective effects against cancer and heart disease.
- Research has also pointed to the sedative and relaxing effect of oxytocin and other endorphins released during orgasm, which may explain why people use masturbation as a way to get to sleep (right… I didn’t know that one but hey…), and why sex is a great way to deal with stress. (that one I did know…
) - There have been two studies which have found a connection between men who ejaculate regularly and a reduced incidence of prostate cancer.
- While orgasms can for some people trigger migraine headaches, at least one study has also found that orgasms can relieve migraine headaches.
- Regularly reaching climax can help reduce stress by the release of “feel good” hormones called endorphins which relax the parts of the brain that cause fear and anxiety.
- Orgasms help lose weight by releasing phenetylamine (a chemical that is known to curb appetite) and seratonin, which has a calming effect on cravings for junk food.
- They can reverse aging by increasing the level of DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) in the body which is known to improve brain function, fat metabolism, the immune system, and the cardiovascular system, as well as promote healthy skin.
- Orgasms have been linked to boosting the immune system. Those who engage in regular sexual activity have been found to have one third higher levels of immunoglobin A, an antibody that assists the immune system in fighting infection such as colds and the flu
It’s also worth pointing out that orgasm and sex play in general can be a wonderful form of exercise. Frequent sex and orgasms can bring with it the benefit of other good cardio workouts.
So PLEASE do tell me… WHY are most women so averse to sex???
Or even ARE really women THAT averse to sex???
I NEED to know that because you chicks confuse me A LOT sometimes and it can be sooooo frustrating… And I am sure I’m not the only bloke that thinks like that…
Speak your mind women… PLEASE tell us… Are you REALLY into sex?
*Image from Getty
I don’t think women are averse to sex. I just think perhaps we don’t *need* it as much as men.
Mrs M´s last [type] ..Lets get physical!
Very wise words…
but WHY????
My views:
Sex is essential. If it’s not constant, I feel the difference in my body and mind; it’s the most effective way for me to relieve stress.
Preferably, daily.
Confirmation that there are women out there who love a fuck:
http://availableblues.blogspot.com/2010/06/find-your-reason.html
Patrícia´s last [type] ..Someone elses words
A Woman after my own heart!!!! Shame we’re both taken! LOL!
Maybe it’s not sex itself they’re avoiding – just sex with you… Just a thought.
I’m sure that’s not it.
hahaha…oh dear.
Patrícia´s last [type] ..Someone elses words
heheheheheeh
I thought that for a while too…
Then I spoke to the GF… and computer said nooooo…
cheeky!
hehehehe
I have to admit, I love it and no cant survive without. I’ve been this way since day one I suppose. I would like to say its about love and stuff and to be honest it is better when you are in a commited relantionship. You learn with each other.
I dont understand where the concept of women not being fussed as much as men, maybe its because we can find better conversations at the pub lol
sara´s last [type] ..Cuddles are priceless
Couldn’t agree more!!!! I simply can’t separate sex from love… and believe me… I tried… it never worked… I can’t simply give all of myself to someone I don’t love… just… not the same thing… know what I mean???
what do pub convos have to do with it?????
men talk a lot about sex, women have better things to discuss lol, well i knew what i meant
sara´s last [type] ..Cuddles are priceless
riiiiight… yeah… you might have a point there… LOL!!!
Sex is a vital part of life! Of my life anyway =))
In my case, it’s me who’s moaning (or not!!) about the lack of it. Nuff said! =)
oooooohhhh… FINALLY someone that understands!!!! LOL!!!!
I am often far too tired to care either way, if I get it I get it and I don’t I don’t, although I must confess I can’t remember the last time I went with out it for longer than a week.
Posh Totty´s last [type] ..Potty Mouth
the question is… who started it??? Yo or OH????
We take it in turns lol
Posh Totty´s last [type] ..Potty Mouth
Turns ey… That might work… LOL!
I shouldn’t really comment, for me masturbation is my only outlet.. It’s been so long since I’ve actually had sex I don’t even remember what it feels like lol..
DiscoMcDisco´s last [type] ..Protected- Some spooky goings-on
lol… dude… everyone is welcome! And you know you are…
Maybe we can learn one thing or two with the gurls!
Love your methods of persuasion: “Come on baby, this will reduce your risk for long term high bloodpressure” always makes me so hot!
kat neville´s last [type] ..Halloween- facepaints and the goat
LOL!!!!
LOL!
I am actually trying to give up on methods of persuasion altogether and focus on all the goodness sex can do to your health…
It might appeal to the logical minds…
Plus I tried persuasion before… hehehehe
I don’t think that (for the most part anyway) women are adverse to sex.
Personally (and I’ve had many a conversation with female pals on this very subject!) I think for woman, it’s all in the head. And I don’t just mean all the lovely dovey stuff, I mean the hot stuff too. The lust, the chase, the suspense, it’s all lost in the daily grind of our lives. We don’t want our blokes purving on us or simply asking ‘Do you fancy a shag?’we want them to make us beg for sex and that’s not ‘traditional’ foreplay. If our minds are in the right place, our bodies will be too, making sex much more worthwhile for both parties and leaving your gal longing for more!
Trust me if you can get inside her head before you get inside her pants, she’ll be asking moaning at you for not being able to keep up!!
beautifully said… very easy in theory tho… Putting it in practice is half the problem some times.
Still VERY valid point…
A survey based on two is hardly representative of a gender. Therefore you could deduce from this a few possibilities (I say these as hypothetical and humourous not accurate so please don’t take offence):
1.) you are attracted to women with low libidos
2.) you are a crap shag
3.) the survey sample is not proportionally representative
Possible solutions:
1.) feed your women aphrodisiacs
2.) work at your play
3.) investigate the range further
But I would say some women are nymphos, some women like it often, some women like it less, some aren’t bovvered and some are celibate. Men need to clean the tubes – it’s physical – women get horny just before they ovulate so amybe it’s about timing. Personally, there is no such thing as too much sex.
A Modern Military Mother´s last [type] ..Sebastian Junger Talking To Hollywood
as they say… men are from Mars Women are from Venus…
This is very “Stephen Fry”… And I don’t mean that in a good way!
Are there good and bad ways to be Stephen Fry???
See??? you women are so cryptical!
Or is it just me that didn’t get that one? (which is quite probable… : ) )
Not cryptic – it’s been a widely publicised “misquote” (according to SF) over the past few weeks and the reason he took a strop and left Twitter forever (then came back 2 days later).
http://www.mirror.co.uk/celebs/news/2010/11/01/stephen-fry-women-don-t-like-sex-115875-22679516/
Nickie@Typecast´s last [type] ..Blogging For Me
Riiiiiight!!! Now I get it…
I don’t really read celleb news… maybe that’s why I never noticed it… heheheheeh
And HEY!!! I’m not saying it… I am comment on it and asking it it is true!
hehehe
I agree with A Modern Military Mother & also Nickie’s reference to Stephen Fry (although he was supposedly misquoted/misunderstood or something). Women are all individuals, but generally speaking I’m certain they love sex as much as men, as long as they’re with the right person of course. If the chemistry is there it’s destined to be brilliant…given time and practice. Even better with chemistry AND love, especially if the pair are really inside each other’s heads (metaphorically of course) and they ‘connect’ psychologically, emotionally and mentally as well as physically.
Read Ted Hughes’ ‘Lovesong’ and you’ll know what I mean!
I do agree with you and Military Mother – it’s all in the head! ermm our head =)
yup… in your head!!!
My point exactly…
LOVED your comment… It says it all… And yes, will read Lovesong…
just one hole to pick… how do you read a woman’s mind?????????
http://bit.ly/cuRVXg
Glad you enjoyed my comment. Love your blog btw, shall follow it avidly! *creeps*
P.S. You will never read any woman’s mind, you just need to understand her to the best of your ability!
I agree with the comments that every woman is different and I am definitely in the minority purely because sex itself just doesn’t do it for me and never has. It may well be that women are just less vocal about how much they want sex and because they are judged about it are less inclined to go hunting for it.
It shouldn’t be… but you might be right there… one would have thought that at this time and age the whole judgementalism would be over…
But for that to happen women will have to stop judging themselves first…
and for goodness sakes… stop reading those crappy magazines that only tell you you are ugly according to some stupid concept developed by some either stupider person…