We hit a small bump in the road this weekend. All of a sudden I wan’t one of J’s favourite people in the world anymore… And all because I wouldn’t tell mummy to hurry up and wake up… The biggest puppy eyes ever opened up and tears fell off them and all of a sudden i wasn’t allowed to stay at his house anymore… or get near mummy for all that it’s worth.
Every time I tried he’d beat me to it, or arrange an excuse for mummy to be somewhere else or request attention in some way or form.
I’d be lying if I said that it didn’t hurt me… twice… Once because I thought a little boy that I already love to bits didn’t love me anymore and twice because I didn’t really get to spend much quality time with Hales over the weekend…
Yeah I know… He is a 4 year old and has always had mummy to himself without ever having to share her and now there is another man in her life and learning to share is not the easiest thing for kids… Specially as my parenting stle is quite different to Hayley’s…
I know that… And I have come to terms that something like that might happen… But for some reason I felt hurt nonetheless…
Yesterday we went to watch Tomas & Friends Live at the Apollo in the morning and when we got back mummy went to take a nap… J went with her to watch TV in bed. When I sat alone in the lounge and was considering going out for a walk to clear up my head and maybe snap some pictures I got a text message from Hales telling me he all he needed was a bit of bonding time with me as he hadn’t had a chance to have any for the past couple of weeks and I should invite him to come and build a train track at the lounge. I didn’t agree much that that was the case as I had spent more time with him than with her lately… but I though… WTF… why not give it a try…
He didn’t come immediately but after about 5 minutes he appeared by the sofa.
“Helloooo… I’m here to HELP you building a track then” With a little smug air that sais “I know you can’t build the track without my help”
We spent the rest of the afternoon building tracks and playing with trains and watching Octonauts and other things on TV and cuddling up on the sofa… By the end of the day we were best of pals again… which put a smile on my face.
He also slept all night long in his bed for the first time in ages… which meant me and Hales had a reasonably good night of sleep (apart from some weird alien and monster dreams *internal joke*) and the best first thing in the morning cuddles I’ve had in ages.
Yeah… looks like some bonding time is all we needed…
And mummy still knows best… 
