Life is so repetitive, but it is our duty to make it FUN
Well at least that makes sense in my head…
I’m a clown in way too many ways and will do almost anything to leave a smile on the face of those I love.
I have no shame… 
That is probably one of the reasons I am usually in trouble too… But what can I do??? This is me, and I don’t know how to be any other way…
I am who I am…
Today TB brought back home a Clown nose thing from the supermarket and put it on my nose… Lil’ One LOVED it and started pouting at me every time I took it off and picked it up asking me to put it back… It kept him amused for quite a few minutes….
I love his little smiles and giggles… Yeah… he has me under his fingers… and I probably do end up spoiling him too much at times… I just can’t avoid it… I spend too little time with them…
This weekend Hales went to Liverpool with her dad so I brought the kids straight to mum’s for a whole weekend with daddy…
Yesterday I received an email from my dad first thing in the morning. We don’t talk as much as I wish we did… We never did, even when mum and dad were together… They got divorced when I was 16 and I kinda lost touch with my dad then.
On the recent years we’ve been trying to reconnect and try to be part of each other’s lives… but it is just not the same… We are still strangers to each other… And as so my kids are growing up without knowing my dad… And he is Grampa from apart… not knowing how much they have grown since he last saw them a little under a year ago.
That thought, that I could become a stranger to my kids shook me yesterday… I couldn’t help but cry… And crying I did.
I was again rescued by a friend… and I realised that no matter how similar the situations are, I AM NOT MY DAD.
I am however their dad and I am determined to be part of their life, as much as I can. To be as active in their upbringing as I physically can. I am always going to to be there, one way or the other.
Today we went swimming and had a great time together… TB shower me his latest swimming tricks and skills… and Lil’ One surprised me by playing and giggling for the 2 hours we spent at the pool (he is in an I-hate-having-baths-and-generally-being-wet phase… )
I am not super dad… Far from it… I have many many little fails to fix to be considered one… But I have surely decided to be the best I can be for the children in my life: TB, J, Lil’ One and Jelly Tot.
Life is too short…. Enjoy it as much as posible… Hug your kids… Your wife… girlfriend… boyfriend… make the most of today…. Enjoy your dad, he won’t always be around…
Life is so repetitive… but it is our duty to make it FUN!
That’s a great uplifting post! Well done you
I think sometimes we all get bogged down by the great circle of life and it’s great just to make a square or triangle from time to tme! (if you see what i mean!). Be what YOU want to be xx
We should ALL do that… Life would be so much better!!!!
i have three boys 19,16,and 14. when they were young, there were many times i had to work late, or travel, and not be with them. soon you don’t realize it but it gets easier and easier to not be with them. when my oldest went away to college, it finally hit me…i never got to take him fishing. i didn’t go mountain biking with him… teach him to change his car’s oil…et cetera. i am closer to the younger two now than i was with the eldest…. huge regret. it’s not too late to spend time with the eldest.. but he just doesn’t have the time now. it almost like that cat steven’s song “father and son” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q29YR5-t3gg
sorry to blabber so much…
you’re on the right track keep it up!
Damn it… you just made me cry listening to that song… I love it.
I’m glad I still have time to be close to my eldest… I want to take him camping and mountain biking… do adventures together… We love going out on photographic safaris… I can’t wait for the next one… Thanks for the comment mate… it did meant a lot… and listening to that song again inspired me.
Yah I’m so pleased to read this post. You are a awesome dad the love you have for your kids is in everything you do. Things are hard now, changes happening but you are far from being your dad. I’m glad you two are trying to connect and maybe time will heal.
Never stop believing in yourself, love yourself and see how much you are loved. Xx
I see today how much I am loved… I am learning to love myself too… and believe in myself as well which is something I kinda lost with time being a stay at home dad… I’m getting there… a little bit at the time… and more importantly… I know I’m not my dad… no matter how I see a lot of him in me.
A great post, so true. I can relate to your relationship with you dad. I rarely see him; he hasn’t seen his grandchildren since last year, no xmas cards or presents for them. I feel really sorry for him because he’s missing out on so much! In a way though, the lack of relationship between me and my dad makes me realise just how important spending time with my own kids is, and I’ll bet your kids cherish their time with their daddy!
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I never realised how important it was to have a relationship with my dad until I had my own… in a different country… It’s not to late for you to give it a try!!!! I cherish every second I spend with my kids, no matter how crazy they drive me sometimes…
And as my eldest told me out of the blue: “I love you daddy, and I know that for sure because we don’t spend as much time together anymore” and gave me a big 5 minute hug that almost made me cry… every second counts!!!