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I have never had problems making friends…

My grandma (yes… the wise one…. ) always taught us about the importance of choosing well our friends: “tell me who you walk with, and I’ll tell you who you are” she’d always say. If you take it as a raw statement I am sure you would disagree as I would too…

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When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, When 24 hours in a day is not enough; remember the mayonnaise jar.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him..

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and start to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded With an unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively
filling the empty space between the sand.
The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things – God, family, children, health, friends, and favorite passions Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else –
The small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So…

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. holeheartedly worship your God, Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap.

‘Take care of the golf balls first — The things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled.

‘I’m glad you asked’.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’

Now go on… share this with other “Golf Balls”

I just did……

zya!!

Did you ever watch the movie How to Lose Friends and Alienate people? Well, I didn’t but if the title has to do anything with what the movie is about, I think they might have based the movie on me!

It wasn’t always like that tho… I used to be a people’s person. I used to have more acquaintances a than I could remember names and more friends than I could probably name.

Yes I did have a very closed circle of REAL friends, and some of them are still my friends today. Maybe not as close as they were before, but still when we speak it is as if time had not passed at all…

I think I miss having friend around me. I have somehow managed to alienate most of them for the past 2 years or so. I Haven’t spoken to some people that were like brothers or sisters to me for long long periods of time, I have shut most of them outside the loop of my life. Mind you, I have sort of alienated my brother and sister as well…

I think I’ve stopped believing in people… I actually think I’ve stopped believing in myself and as a consequence I began to think people stopped believing in me. I surprise myself every time someone comes to me for council… I surprise myself when people that are supposed to be leaders of a group of people come to me for counsel… 

Last Saturday was my Birthday and it took no one showing up to the party for me to start thinking… Well not really no one… my family did go and Marcio came along too. But I had a list of about 80 people  invited (Well… most I already knew they wouldn’t be able to come for one reason or other, like sime were going to be abroad on the day… ). The thing that really hit home was the fact that the people I was sure would come, didn’t come at all.

All and everyone had their reasons and I am not disputing that. I am actually not writing this post to incriminate any or them or make them guilty of anything…

This post is about me (kinda cliché uh… “It is not about you, is about me” … LOL! ).

There is a reason I feel alone most of the time… Intentionally or not, I’ve MADE MYSELF AN HERMITE!

At some point in time I cut off all relationships but my family and a few people I am still in contact with once here or there. And mind you, not even they know most of what’s going on in my life… how I feel… Hell know… God forbid they actually know some of the things that I feel… I have not come into terms with them… I won’t… I will keep on fighting.

 The worst thing is that you have no idea how easy it is to drop off everyone’s radar.

I gotta change that… I used to have friends everywhere, that so far as a know considered  me a good friend… Once upon a time I would die for my friends… Right now, deep inside I couldn’t care less…

And that hurts because is so unlike me. It goes against my nature… 

I care… too much…

I need to get off at he next station so I’ll also end this post before I make a book out of it.

But I’ll leave a question: How on earth do I gat back to who I used to be??? Have a I forgotten who I am???

What would you do???

Zya…

Once upon a time I was a VERY shy young boy. How shy? Well, anti-sociably shy (?!?!?).

I used to hate social gatherings, used to hate the attention and having to give attention to others (which can be a real problem when your mother LOVES to entertain). I used to hate parties (I think I blame part of that in my aunt… she dressed as a clown in my 1st birthday party… after that every year I had to look over my shoulder to see if I could find the scary monster with the white face and red nose… hehehe)

Then one day I decided that being shy was nothing more, nothing less than a waste of time!

Yes… I am just random like that: If something sticks to my head then nothing will ever take it out of there, unless a better argument comes up. Once I decided that sleeping was a waste of time… I still partly think that as true… but Vic convinced me that sleeping can ge good some times so… u gotta compromise somewhere…

Well… back to my point: I became a social beast. Wanna go party? Hell yeah! I was first one one in and last one out of the floor (can’t say I can dance… but I would do it anyways)… Luaus at the beach and serenading with a guitar and a group of friends till late night comes were my favorites. All of a sudden I was surrounded by friends and ready for whatever at any time…

Yup I’ve changed from water to wine.

Those were good days… and they went till… well I think till a bit after I got married really… Sure we do go out and do stuff some times… but I can’t stop noticing how old I feel… Specially once I stop to realize the sort of things I am now doing and that more than half the people now doing the things I used to like are… well… half my age!

Does that ever bother you??

Am I back to water??? I surely hope NOT! I still haz got the skillz!!! A bit more refined but still got it!

And at least I know that some of my friends are a lot “older” than me! lol! We went out to Texas Embassy with Kathia, Jack and Marcio the other day and whilst they all went home right after the Embassy me and Vic were still willing to go dancing!!

Not that we did go dancing as I managed to block my credit card by punching the wrong pin number more than allowed. I was a bit tipsy okay?!?!?!

“Nada me hara mas feliz que dos margaritas!” <- know what I mean?

I had four so I am justified!

December was quite a month full of events!!! Right after that it was our (Me and Vic’s) wedding anniversary… so we went to watch Twilight and then to Planet Hollywood!! And guess what? I kinda liked the twilight movie but still no comparison to the book!

Planet Hollywood was great! Loved the fajitas!

Vic liked the blue cow!

we were going to go dancing… we even got VIP treatment and all but we realized that if we did go in we would be in no condition to anything else for the next day (and we had to hit the road early morning)

Now that I think better… we should have gone into the club!!!! :/

Then there was X-mas at the In-Laws and tonite there is new year at ours. The a non stop of events produced by the CWI HUB next year…. so… Thinking it a bit better… maybe I am just as social as I was… just… grown up.

Time to get things ready then… last year we went to the London Eye for the reveillon… but after waiting for 3 hours to get into the train to come back home we decided to go a bit more… low key this year.

We’ll be receiving some friends and family over at the UVN Headquarters… And that’s going to be our new years eve activity…

How about yours???

HAVE A GREAT 2009 FULL OFF ALL THAT’S GOOD!!

May your dreams for the new year all come true!

Y+V+T

zya!

I’d normally respond to comments with comments but I’ve now left it too long and have too many comments to respond to, (specially because of my friend Emmie huahuahua…) soooo… here are the responses…

Emmie – Yup… will go with my gut feeling… I always end up doing it anyways… some time that works some times I get into soooo much trouble… but hey… lol!

I also looove Legos and the fact that the TB does as well makes me sooooo happy! hehehehe

“M”s “W”s… all the same… can’t blame her!!!! lol!!!

Barbara – Don’t worry about the typos… I do them all the time.. hehehehe… I think I’ve inherited the posting without proofreading thing from my wife’s old blogs…

I’ve got only one kiddo so far… but he’s worth for 10… lol… too bad I don’t really spend much time home with him anymore… I work most of my time from home, but he spends the whole day out between School and the After School Club… I only get to spend time with him after I pick him up at 6pm… and even so not enough… but hey!

Cindy – Nooo … thank YOU for stopping by! Feel at home! And don;t forget to Video comment… lol… I’m loving that stuff!

Hawt?!?!?! yayy.. I’m daddy cool! lol BTW… I am now following you on twitter!

Vered – Thanks for the support! And Welcome to my blog!

I think I’ve responded to everything that was unresponded… BTW… I am installing a video commenting thingie… so video me away! yayyyyyyy!!!

What else???? 2:10am… should really try to get some Zsssss uh????

Keep an eye on my twitter!!!!

Weekend starts tomorrow!!!! HAVE FUN!

zya!