Posts Tagged ‘pregnancy’

28 Apr

Weeks 23 & 24: Choices we Make

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Dear Jelly Tot

This has to be the hardest letter I’ve written you so far mainly because I get to talk to you about something I have been struggling with myself… A LOT

Every choice we make comes with a consequence… I should know… Daddy took a few very bad choices over the past few days and is now suffering the consequences immensely… I hope you learn quickest than I did that all the choices we make will affect not only ourselves but the ones immediately around us.

The good news is that every choice you take will lead to another one further along and we always get to choose how you will react to what’s happening next. So don’t worry if you end up making bad choices… We all do along the way, and believe me, the consequences of some of them will hurt like crazy but then again, at the end You can either choose to mop over it and feel sorry for yourself or learn the lesson with your mistake and do something about it. You have something called free will… It is the most important t gift you will EVER possess… MAKE USE OF IT the best way you can!

Me and mummy will always be here to help you take the best choices as much as we can… but in the end it is all up to you… and no matter how you choose to live your life, I need you to know one thing: I LOVE YOU MY SON! I always will, and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

Now, let me know about a choice I know you’ve been taking a lot… I know it is fun to kick and sit on mummy’s blather all the time… I find it amusing myself… that is when she is not giving me “the look” for giggling about it… but you do know what the consequence of if wil be right? (that is… apart from mummy having to pee a lot)… she will never ever ever let that one pass and will always use it against ya… in special when you bring your girlfriends home… Think it might be an idea to change your favourite spot??? Just saying…

;)

29 Mar

Week 20: Half Way There

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Dear Jelly Tot,

We’re now half way there… The past week has been quite hard on daddy… I didn’t get to hear your heartbeat or talk to you at all… Time just ran by and mummy has been stressed with an essay and other life related things… including daddy being a bit of a pain in the butt (yeah… get used to it…)… But today you’ve put a huge smile on daddy’s face… And a few tears in my eyes as well. They were tars of joy… it made me so very happy to see you moving… and thanks to for waving like I asked you last week… :)

You are still being as lazy as can be as neither mummy nor I can feel your kicks on the outside yet (although apparently you like The Jersey Boys… cool ;) ) how about you give some of those kicks outwards so daddy can feel them too? :)

You really take after your mummy don’t you? As in being as stubborn as posible and being in the wrong positions at the wrong time… This time me ultra sound lady didn’t make your mum bounce all over the place, but she asked us to go for a walk…  and you still wouldn’t do as you are told when we were back… I don’t mind really… it means we get to go see you again next week (and this time I’ll male sure I have the money for the your pictures on me… )… But PLEASE could you make sure you are in the right position next time? We want a decent picture of you. :)

Your brothers are convinced (like everyone else) that you are a girl now… and are really expecting you to be one… so for their benefit we might have to find out you gender next week… I still don’t know it I like the idea of ruining the surprise or if I get excited to find out if you gonna be our littlest boy or daddy’s little princess…

But you know what? Everyone out here will love you just as much!

Still 3 months and a half for you to arrive… I can’t wait to see your little face…

Love you!

 

15 Mar

Week 18 – Heartbeats and Questions

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Last week Hales got one of those heartbeat monitors you can have at home to try and listen to the baby in the uterus.

Yeah… I know I’d heard the baby’s heart before when we went for the last scan… but I just couldn’t stop smiling at JT’s little noises when we did hear them together last week…

I say little noises because it took me ages to actually hear the heartbeat as JT kept moving and kicking… yeah… baby will be just as stubborn as mummy when she doesn’t want something… lol… But in the end after paying much attention and loads of  kicking and turning around I managed to hear the faint but strong little heart in the background.

I spent the whole night and the next day with a stupid smile on my face…

We are still pretty much convinced JT will be a girl… not just because of the whole round belly myth thing… but Hales says it feels completely  different than it was when she had J… And Jelly Tot is way lazier than him… and just as stubborn as mummy…

We’re not finding out the baby’s gender till JT is here… We were talking about that last night again… yeah… it is so much practical and all… but it kinda takes away element of surprise… and as we’re having a C-section she really wants something to look forward to… and yeah… so will I… expect tears… and maybe a shaky pictures… :)

Second trimester is not going exactly how I was hopping it would go… Some things still confuse me… and mummy’s moods still frustrate me at times… But tiny little things make up for it as usual… I knew it was never going to be easy… and no matter how things hurt sometimes, love and well… hope that things will get better with time, caring and a HUGE dosis of patience… (Thanks Sara) go a long way…

I can’t wait to be able to feel the little kicks through Hales belly… I actually dreamed about that last night and I really didn’t want to wake up from that dream… But real life tends to get in the way… :)

TB keeps asking me if he can talk to the bump when he sees Hales on Friday for out “sleepover”…  He is being careful about the subject… bit I can see he is just as curious as he was on Lil One’s pregnancy. Although I can see he is curious in a different way… it is, after all, a completely different situation. With Lil One he was there every day of the run… And of course it was the same mum as his… The fact is that I am not sure how to deal with him… Specially as I don’t know what goes on on his mind… He is too much like me and won’t share openly unless he absolutely has to…

When he asked me to make him a blog I saw an opportunity to gase into what’s in his mind… but there are all the dangers that involve in him having a blog… today Aly gave me an idea that might work… Having him Guest Posting at urbanvox.net … That idea makes me happy… :) he already Vlogs with me a lot… so it won’t be too different will it? :)

I also seem to have rediscovered faith and that is something that is growing on me just like the little life that is growing in mummy’s belly… I still don’t know where it will take me… but I am more than happy to go where it goes.

We’re half way there… Time is flying and I can’t wait to meet our littlest one face to face… We’re half way there…

And I can’t stop smiling… :)

07 Mar

Week 17… A Daddy view…

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We’re having a baby…

Yeah… I know this is old news now… But I feel like I am definitely ready to talk about it now…

It feels weird that I took that long to ge to it… Specially as this is one of ther things me and Hales craved the most since we found out… blogging about it… I actually dreamed a couple of times that I did it… yeah… I’m weird like that…

Then why haven’t I done it so far? The answer is… I don’t know…

I am not stranger to being a dad… I’ve done it twice as you know… full time at some point… it just feels so much different this time…

Don’t take me wrong… I feel just as happy… elated in fact that I am about to be a daddy again… It puts a huge smile in my face every time I see Hales belly… every time she tells me about the baby somersaults… every time she tells me some new sensation or worry or one of the little joyful things that happen… I nearly cried of happiness when I saw Jelly Tot’s scan… and it still brings me a huge smile to my face every time I look at the scan’s print out…

It makes me hopeful every time someone tells me they think JT will be  girl because of the Shape of her belly or anything like that…

Everyone always talks about how important and how incredible it is for the mum to be to be pregnant… and how it feels… and the bond mum and baby have… I can’t help to feel a bit left out…

God knows how much I want to have a relationship with JT from now on already… And being in a different address to Hales hasn’t helped at all… I would love to lay down at night with my ears on her belly and listen to the baby moving… to talk to the bump… I would like noting more than to sleep hugging the bump… And to be able to see how she develops and hold Hales tight at the end of the day and just… stay like that for a little while…

I am now living literally just around the corner… that made it so much easier… I get to worry so much less about being so far away like I was in Kent (almost a 2 hour drive)… I get to see them much more often… Yeah I do miss spending nights together… But being able to see her more often kinda makes up for it…

That in itself is confusing to me sometimes… I’ve been married throughout the pregnancy of my 2 first kids, and my role as a dad to be was so much more active… or at least it felt like it was… On TB’s pregnancy I was in every Dr’s appt… in part because most of the pregnancy was in Brazil and my Ex didn’t speak enough Portuguese to communicate with the doctors when my aunt wasn’t involved… I was in most of Lil’ One’s appt and well… there every step of the way…

Yeah… I am being active during JT’s pregnancy so far helping with everything I can… but it feels weird not “being there”… It is different n every single aspect…

Then again… this is just week 17… I can’t even feel JT kicking from the outside yet… The situation is brand new and I have only just moved closer so yeah… logic dictates that I will be around more often…

Yes I will be giving mummy the space she needs as an independent stubborn young woman… :) And yes… I will keep on learning how to enjoy my own space… How to love my individuality… and discover who da heck I am again… I am getting there…

New relationship… new mummy… new baby… new rules… And Now that I am ready to talk about it… new blog posts about it will come too…

:)

02 Aug

Boppy-dee-doo!!

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Having a baby is probably one of the happiest moments in a parent’s life. The parenting experience on the other hand is not always all that it is bottled up to be; happiness and joy coupled with sleepless nights and dirty diapers. Any parent knows that good help in the parenting process is hard to come by and always welcome.

If you know me and read my posts you will know that I am a gadgets aficionado. I love little things tat make our lives easier in a way or another… even it it is not a lot of difference… I love the genius of the thing. Needless to say that is the Wife would let me I would collect way too many of them…hell… I do that already, but you know what I mean! Right???

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